Routine, Routine, Routine

Spending a quiet evening on the beach has got to be my favorite thing to do this summer. We motor across the pond and walk the path to ocean …. the sun is starting to set and crowds have left. Glorious.

So far, I’ve felt good this summer– even though it’s been so hard maintaining a routine. As visitors come in and out, I seem to toss out the planning and go with the flow. And yet, except for missing my regular exercising, I’m doing ok.

I do my breathing at least twice a day, and journal if I start to feel my gut/nerves do the typical rolling around. Then I know I better get what’s in my head on paper!

We are still trying to limit our sugar and eat plenty of vegetables. It’s hard when the Quonnie Farm Stand with its delicious scones is right down the road. I LOVE bread but it’s not good for my gut….

Healing, with help from my brain

Sometimes the chronic pain or anxiety is caused by, well, something not physical. And how you think about your pain makes a huge difference. I was a people-pleaser from way back(many of us are). But in my old age, I’ve been amazed to learn how much my need to please is really a way to avoid fear (long story from my childhood). What I’ve discovered is that avoiding fear or trying to tamp it down, often creates physical ailments that accompany that fear. Headaches, nausea, anxiety, vertigo, acid reflux).

Far too often I pushed the fear away and resorted to other ways of trying to deal with it. This podcast captures what I’ve learned about my brain! I purchased the Curable app last year, listened to almost all of the podcasts, and worked through the app elements. I also read The Way Out, by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv, which was a huge help. Now I have a basket of skills to call on when I sense the fear and pain (or anxiety) is on its way.

I’m not a doctor. I know people in pain might think this is just one more person saying it’s all in your head. But there is too much evidence that for some people this works.

I’m not fully healed. After all, I’ve been reacting to situations for nearly 70 years, and brain pathways are difficult to change after that long. But I’m so much better. Frankly, I don’t have any expectation to fully heal. However, knowing where this is coming from helps keep the fear and pain at a minimum.