One of my goals/intentions/hopes is to catch myself when I am heading down a dark hole (catastrophizing or other cognitive distortions) and to stop, breathe, and break the cycle. I was reading a blog post today, and the author wrote that she says to herself: This is not a big deal. I like that. Most…
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If You Can’t Say Something Nice
I hate the word “nice.” It’s been used to describe me one too many times. I suppose being nice is better than being a bitch, but nice, which rhymes with rice, another bland something, is the opposite of spice. Now spice–that has gumption. Nice is another way of saying–no backbone, boring.Being nice started early in…
You Have No Regrets Scheduled Today
When I opened my calendar email today, I instead of “no events” I saw: You have no regrets scheduled for today. Now that is a sign from the universe. Perhaps I’ve been spending just a little too much time in the past. Part of my wellness plan is staying in the present, which is so…
What a Long Journey
Sometimes I wonder why I am so drawn to readings, podcasts, and videos about emotional health. Mostly, it’s because I had to clean up my own struggles, understand where they were coming from, and learn to recognize I would have good days but also bad moments. The human experience. This takes time. And if often…
Self-Esteem or Self-Compassion?
I’ve spent the better part of the last two years studying self-compassion. In this podcast, Laurie Santos talks to Kristin Neff about why self-compassion is so important. Don’t let the term self-love or self-compassion bother you (I had to work through that, too). But know it is key to having a “fierce tenderness” about the…